English Language and Literature ETDs

Publication Date

Spring 5-9-2019


This is a full-length memoir and cultural commentary that explores sex and gender, sexuality and queerness, and sexual assault and harassment. Specifically, it focuses on how my upbringing in a conservative suburb of Portland, Oregon, with politically conservative, but sexually liberal parents, and the rhetoric of third-wave feminism, forced me to question what it truly means to be a “strong, independent woman.”

The book follows my coming of age as a queer woman. I explore topics such as: porn, BDSM and kink, faking orgasms, consent and coercion, and how faux-empowerment lead has led to low self-worth for girls in my generation. I also explore the ways in which third-wave feminism has contributed to performative female sexuality and self-objectification, and the ways in which queerness and kink can provide a better framework for sex.

Degree Name

MFA Creative Writing

Level of Degree


Department Name


First Committee Member (Chair)

Gregory Martin

Second Committee Member

Lisa Chavez

Third Committee Member

Julie Shigekuni

Fourth Committee Member

Marisa Clark

Fifth Committee Member

Ruth Wariner-Centofante



Document Type


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